First of all my 

to all who enter here.


I'm sorry for the loss that brings you here.  Grieving a sibling/siblings is for a lifetime.  Reaching out for support is a good sign.  It's the beginning of the healing process.

I know exactly how you feel.
I was feeling this same way
about six months after my brother,
Michael died.

Yes, it took me about six months
to try to find some help on-line.
Yes, that long because I felt lost and didn't know which way to turn.  I was going to a counselor and a psychiatrist at the time but that wasn't enough for me.

I felt I had to become stronger,
to give my parents the support they needed.  I tried to hide  my emotions and act strong  in front of them, but I felt I was slowly dying inside.

Therapy does help, but
I don't think anyone can afford
to get therapy everyday.
And for some of us, that's what we need.

Psychiatrist I really don't like, but
had no other choice at the time.
I couldn't sleep and I knew
at that point that I needed some help.

The first person I met was on a message board posting related to sibling loss. Her name is Danielle.  She told me about a  support group on-line and I joined right away. 

I felt comfortable when I joined the group because all of the e-mails I received I could relate to, but I was afraid to talk.  Maybe because I am a pretty much quiet person until you get to know me.

I got to meet a few people but it was not what I wanted.  I wanted to become  friends with the people that I was talking with. I didn't just want to be sending an e-mail to get it off my chest.  So I decided to start my own support group and here I am.

All I am asking from you is that if you are here it's  because you need support, so please try to stay as active as possible in the group.  I know it might take you a while because you don't know anyone, but trust me....the faster you join in, the better you will feel.  I don't expect for you to write everyday but we would like to know how you are doing, so we can give you the support you need. 

At the beginning it's very difficult to write down certain things because all you want to do is cry.  Well, crying is part of the healing process, it's normal to do that.

I would like to take this opportunity to thank Nikki which has given me very much support along the way and Sarah (my adopted daughter *Smile*) which has been there for me since day one that I met her on-line. 

Please tell me a little bit about yourself by clicking on the next button below or you can email me and as soon as I here from you, your membership will be approved.  Hope to hear from you soon.  If you have any questions, don't hesitate to ask.

Rules of the group

This group is for support purposes only. All members should understand that asking other members for any financial compensation for personal expenses or donations will not be allowed. For example - asking members to join iGive.com, an organization that donates money after members shop online or to send an anomynous donation to a nonprofit organization is fine, but please never send any money to an individual or ask that other group members send money to you.

A caution to all members - please remember that although support groups are meant for good purposes, it is an online group so members should use caution when giving other members personal information such as address/phone #'s. We want to protect everyone's privacy and keep the group as safe as possible. For this reason, we ask that everyone in the group post at least once a month, if not the member will be automatically deleted from the group. It helps us remember who everyone is and hopefully will help relieve our fear that someone would join our group under false pretenses (we've had it happen).

It doesn't have to a long letter - just an update about you and how you're feeling, what's going on in your life, sharing a memory about your sibling, or a short little note just to let us know that you're still out there somewhere, or to remind us who you are if you're new and don't talk much. If you want to sit back and only read other than your monthly post, that will be fine. Sorry if this causes any kind of inconvenience, but we're only trying to protect all the members and make this group as supportive as it can possibly be.

If you have any problems or questions please contact Sarah ( sarahdavis22@comcast.net) or Haydee (haydee@sibloss.org)